Many of us constantly feel that we have to change. When we decide to be the kind person who give and give, the world makes us realise that kindness doesn't pay off and it'll lead you to having a lowered self-esteem. It feels horrible, so we decide that we should be more selfish because, as many people say, we deserve to be nice to ourselves. So we put our own needs in front of others'. That good friend of yours suddenly come to you and say "How selfish...", or "You only care about yourself." So, you feel a need to change again.

You tell yourself, "So it's not right to be too selfless. It's not right to be too selfish. I shall balance it out!" But the thing is, to balance selflessness and selfishness, you need to have an equal amount of each, and we know that selflessness and selfishness are immeasurable. So how? We waver, and then we feel lost, and then our self-esteem drop even more.

We decide that we have to change change change. After putting in so much effort to change, our next step is to change. And then after that, we have to change. "I am never good enough, i have to change," we tell ourselves.

Eventually, we realise how tiring life is, how little we are, and how much we need to change. We know that we'll never reach perfection. We convince ourselves that we're not fighting for perfection. We tell ourselves, "I'm not aiming for perfection, i'm aiming for improvement."

But, improvement is not measurable. You will never achieve "improvement" because you never know when it is achieved or when to stop. In other words, we're aiming for improvement to the point where we cannot improve anymore, and that means perfection.

Stop.

We're good enough. We may have our flaws, we may be different, we may lose, but the most important thing in life is to be happy. To be happy, we must accept ourselves. We are not perfect, but we don't have to be.

Even that guy you find so irritating has great friends. That girl you bullied in class because she's "weird" turns out to be popular in her new class. There are always people who love us, no matter what. One of them is ourselves.

"I love myself. I am good enough."