Yesterday, my family went to a chalet which my uncle booked. My sister, cousin and i did nothing much, just played cards, waited for BBQ food, and went to the beach area for a walk. As i was walking on the beach, sand got into my slippers, which was uncomfortable, and i knew that very soon we would just be walking on the sandless area. So, i went to the seawater and tried to use the waves to remove the sand. It failed. Now, there was less sand, but it felt more irritating. Since i couldn't do anything about it, i just walked casually on the sand again, and more sand got in. I wasn't frustrated anymore, because the "new sand" which got in made my feet feel more comfortable because now my slippers were not "some sand some no-sand" but "all sand".

Don't you think this situation occurs very much in our real life? I was kind of excited when i thought of this situation as a life-lesson because i felt that, with a logic derived from this situation, i can escape lots of unhappiness. You probably can too, Here's how:

You don't like camps. You are forced to attend a camp (the sand enters your slippers). In the camp, if you continuously try to make things "normal and back to your day-to-day life" (attempt to wash away the sand), you'll fail and it will make you feel worse (less sand more more uncomfortable). Now you've decided that nothing can be changed. What you can do is to fully accept the camp and your new lifestyle (allow more sand in). You will feel more comfortable.

Back to my story: So, after i allowed more sand into my slippers and felt more comfortable, my sister, cousin and i walked on the sandless area. Gradually, there were less and less sand on my slippers and feet. They sort of flew away/dropped off (???).

This will happen in real life as well. As time pass, the problem (which became comfortable when you accepted it) will become not-a-problem anymore.

You must think i'm crazy, but i was quite worried about NS life even though it's still quite far away. But this logic can be used in this area.

In a nutshell, by accepting our problems and being patient with them, we'll be able to handle them in a positive fashion.